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Pamela N. Breedlove

Pamela N. Breedlove has been licensed to practice law in Louisiana and Georgia since 1992. The first fifteen years of her practice was primarily litigation oriented, including medical malpractice defense, commercial litigation, defense of municipalities and individual employees against federal and state constitutional and tort claims, employment litigation, family law, successions, and general litigation.

Civil & Family Mediation

Mediation provides an opportunity to settle legal disputes without traditional litigation. It saves time and money, and in many cases, makes it possible to continue relationships once a dispute is resolved. This is why mediation is such a popular option for resolving civil and family disputes.

Police & Fire Civil Service Law

Police and firefighters are viewed as authority figures in every community. They risk their lives to protect those of the citizens. Unfortunately, police officers and firefighters sometimes are accused of making mistakes and need legal representation.

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Moving People from Positions to Solutions

In any sort of dispute, the mantra that mediation is faster, cheaper and less emotionally exhausting than litigation can give the impression that simply by choosing to enter mediation with the other party, you have practically solved the problem. This is reinforced by many mediation professionals who simply list the benefits of mediation over and over again without going into detail concerning the actual work and commitment that the process requires in order to be successful.

Positions vs. Interests

Most people enter mediation with very strong positions on issues. When it involves a family dispute or family law, these positions are very fixed and often very emotional. For example, in divorce mediation one spouse may have as a position that the other spouse not get one dime of support money.

The key in mediation is not to ensure everyone gets exactly what their positions might dictate – the key is to move people off of positions and towards the underlying interests they have in the matter. So, with the position stated above, the spouse’s interest is in financial fairness, or possibly revenge over perceived injuries. The subtle shift in vocabulary is a powerful tool in moving away from absolutes to negotiations.

Interests Equal Progress

The reason this is important is because positions tend to be unassailable – they are fixed and often illogical, and as a result, resist any logical attempts to shift them. If you can reveal the underlying interest behind the position, you can begin to deal with the real issue, which is often easily recognized as unreasonable or unsolvable.

It also shifts the conversation from convictions that are opaque and that serve to obscure motivations – meaning the conversation is premised on false assumptions in the first place – to the reality behind those convictions, which can be picked open, examined, proved to be true or false in either its parts or as a whole, and then negotiated over.

Everyone enters a dispute – especially emotionally-charged family disputes – with a set of positions they are determined to protect and champion. It’s human nature. The skilled mediator will be able to recognize positions for what they are and begin by challenging them and urging the disputants to get to the core of their interests in practical terms that can be discussed, allowing for compromise. Otherwise no true solution is possible, no matter how skilled the mediator is.